Things Guys Should Do On A First Date
Ah, first dates. So nerve-wracking. If only you knew exactly
what was going to happen, then you could plan out everything in
advance. But first dates are kind of like playing the lottery.
You gotta be in it to win it, but sometimes you end up
empty-handed. If you’re a woman, you know these sorts of
situations don’t always go so smoothly. If you’re a guy,
here are 10 tips that can make the first date easier on all of
Take Charge. We do not want to decide where to go. We will never tell you
this, but it is true. Ask us what kind of place and/or food we
like; then, pick a place like that. Do not leave it up to us to
choose. You are the man. Act like one.
Smile. When we arrive, smile. Maybe you are a tough guy. Maybe you are
nervous. Maybe you are paralyzed. Either way, smile.
Women are strange, exotic, intuitive creatures, and we respond
well to positive reinforcement. Do not glower.
Mind Your Body Language. If your legs are crossed and your hand is over
your mouth, we will unconsciously think you are hiding
something. If you are sprawled out all over with your legs
spread wide and your hands behind your head, we will think you
are a slob or generally loose. Sit up straight, lean in closer,
and keep your hands where we can see them.
Ask Questions. This seems obvious, but it’s surprising how many men
don’t do this. You know what women like? Attention.
Also, kittens, flowers, and cupcakes. Nothing else. If you seem
curious about the woman sitting across from you, she will like
it. For sure.
Listen. You can’t just ask a bunch of questions, and then not listen to
the answers. They call this a “date,” but, really, for
women, it’s more like a “test.” If you emailed or talked
on the phone beforehand, remember what the hell she told you
about herself. If you forget, we will feel angry and want to
leave. Then you will be sorry.
Use Flattery, Appropriately. If at some point during our meeting, you
tell us we are “beautiful,” “attractive,” or
“pretty,” we will like you better than if you didn’t.
It’s. Just. That. Simple.
Act Right, Boy. We really do not care if you are secretly
neurotic, deeply insecure, or mildly nuts. We are interested in
how you portray yourself. Act confident, interested,
engaged, self-assured, ambitious, and happy. We like that.
No Pawing Allowed. If you’re going to score with us at some
point, we will let you know. Trust. Occasional physical
contact is OK—a hand to the small of the back, a touch of the
thigh, a brief holding of the arm while making a point. Do not
grab anywhere in the red light zones. If we want your hands
there, we will put them there.
Pay. Feminism, shmeminism. Take care of the bill without comment. That
is what we want. Wave off any offer to go dutch. We lied. We
don’t want to pay half.
Say Goodnight. Don’t meander off into the night. Do something.
What that is is up to you: a handshake, a hug, a kiss. Do it
right? You might get a second date.
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